By Dannyy Alamo
Contributing Writer
As
the semester comes to an end many graduating students start to think
about the next chapter in their lives. Many students are continuing
their education; others are going into the workforce and for students
like me using opportunities to further their chosen careers and lives.
A
lot of people question the choice to attend Housatonic Community
College, I made the choice after losing my grandmother passed away in
2009 and after a year off coming to terms with her death I decided I
needed to do something productive and start looking towards my future
which is what my grandmother would want.
I
started in the summer of 2011, after the grueling fafsa procedure,
finding a stable place to live and deciding what major I wanted to be
in, I took my first class in the summer to get a feel for what was to
come. My first professor was English Professor Lily Michols and she was a
very nurturing and understanding professor. Professor Michols made my
first class very engaging and entertaining.
After
Professor Michols’s English class I felt like I could take on this
college thing and that I did. I’ll admit I was a little afraid because I
knew that not all professors would be as kind and entertaining as
Professor Michols, but I felt good about what was to come. After
registering for the Fall 2011 semester I began to anticipate the
upcoming school semester.
The
semester came and I took it on and did really good, at the time I was
in a relationship and was working at the Academic Advising Center in
Lafayette Hall. I felt on top of the world and like nothing could stop
me. Unfortunately all seemingly good things must come to an end. I had a
bad break up after some hidden domestic violence and being with someone
who was very controlling.
After
I took some time to fully deal with the situation I bounced back and
decided I wouldn’t let the situations that occurred before to derail me
from finishing my goal, which was to finish the semester and get closer
to graduation. I finished the semester and enjoyed the winter break.
Christmas came, New Year’s came and it was back to school. I told myself
I would focus solely on school and making sure to enjoy my college
career, things don’t always go as planned I bumped into a blast from my
past and three months later was in another relationship.
I
was on cloud nine; I was doing well in school, writing for the paper
and was in a relationship that seemed perfect. Perfection unfortunately
doesn’t last long, especially when it’s not meant to be. A few months
into my relationship things took a turn for the worst, I was being lied
to, mistreated and my loyalty and commitment was being used against me. I
wasn’t perfect and I knew that but I was doing everything I could to
make the relationship work.
Eight
months before my break-up, I fell out of love and realized that because
my relationship was so public around town, social media and to close
family and friends that I couldn’t just walk away without getting a lot
of backlash. I was broken so broken, I wasn’t working at my best in
school or work, I was emotional and confused, I had never been in that
situation before.
When
I had the proof to get out, I was too late. My significant other broke
up with me and requested for me to move out of our apartment seeing as I
wouldn’t be able to afford it on my income. I said I would but after
the month was over, it was April 19. A week later I got more proof this
time it was solid, I lost it after finding out I was lied to, played and
betrayed. My relationship ended very badly and I was embarrassed to go
back to school.
When
I got back to school after spring break, I had a black eye, scratches
and scars all over my body and a fear that wouldn’t go away. My ex broke
me, I felt so little, so stupid and so lost. I dealt with the questions
and the ridicule and the blame, never opening up to anyone besides
those who mattered about what exactly happened.
I
finally made it to summer break and even though I was still getting
blamed, laughed at and judged I felt like I was handling things just
fine. I enjoyed my summer with a few break downs and a few failed
attempts at moving on. It was time for the Fall semester and I made a
pact with myself that I would wait until graduation to start dating
again, it was now 2013 and I realized I had been through two long term
failed relationships.
The
New Year came very fast and I was ready for it. I started looking at
what I wanted to do with my Communications degree and my future. I
applied to 136 internships in the City with my sights set on one,
People’s Revolution Fashion PR, notably known for its appearances on
MTV’s The Hills and The City and Bravo’s Kell On Earth.
I
got People’s Rev and was excited to graduate Spring 2014 and start
right after. Here I am now preparing for graduation in a few weeks and
preparing to take on a new chapter in my life. I reinvented myself into a
fashion socialite; I started hosting club events and embracing new
friends. I feel like I now know who I am. I realized that all the
decisions I’ve made have gotten me to this point good and bad, and that
now it was my time to take back my life.
It
doesn’t matter what curveball life throws at us, it only matters if we
learn from it. If I could do it so could you and if I could come out
stronger after domestic violence, homelessness and employment loss you
could too. Life is in your hands take it and mold it into what you want
it to be, don’t be afraid and never say you can’t do something, trust me
you can. This is my farewell to Housatonic, for those that have some
time here enjoy it for those leaving with me congrats! We did it!