By Jessica Spadaccino
Staff Writer
A new sexual position…
The guys got to talk; now it‘s my turn.
Ahh, sex. After reading Cody’s and Brandon’s articles on the subject in the "Arguing with the Boss" section of Horizons, I have come to many conclusions about the wonderful and all-powerful experience called sex. The guys got to talk about it, so now it’s time to strip down to the naked details from a woman’s perspective.
In the two articles, Cody argued for "making love," and Brandon defended rough sex. So who is right?
Cody is telling the truth when he says most people do enjoy sex; it has been a hit since Adam courted Eve. But what makes it so great? Is it the way we have sex, or is it more?
According to foxnews.com, a survey was conducted by a doctor in London to see how many women achieved an orgasm during sexual intercourse. Out of 4,000 women, 32 percent said that they were unable to orgasm more than a quarter of the times they had sex. 16 percent of those women said that they never achieved an orgasm. Some argue it is because of genetics; I say it is performance.
The orgasm is a beautiful thing. It not only physically makes you feel amazing, but emotionally also. According to goaskalice.colombia.edu, endorphins are released into the body when a person orgasms. Endorphins are natural substances created by the body to relieve pain, and when they are released the person’s stress levels decrease and feelings of happiness increase. So if anyone has ever told you “you need to get laid,” you probably do.
There have been arguments that the orgasm isn’t necessary every time intercourse occurs, but I strongly disagree. Without the orgasm, sex feels unfinished. Yes, sex does feel good even without a climax. But come on, girls! Aren’t you tired of faking it? The main goal of sex is to make your partner feel amazing, and an orgasm is the only outcome that will leave you completely satisfied. Now the only question remaining is how to reach a climax.
Making love is something that only virgins dream about. The gentle hugs, the soft kisses, the “euphoric haze” as Cody called it- it’s all crap. Soft-core sex is nice, but I don’t want to have sex with Pooh Bear. I want to feel something other than my partner sobbing on my shoulder. Whispering sweet nothings is a great mood enhancer, but is not going to get your partner to a climax. You have to get physical.
But not too physical. Rough sex can be great, until you are sweating, out of breath, your partner is flopping on you like a dying fish, and you still haven‘t climaxed. In sex, as Brandon pointed out in his argument, it is okay and sometimes much needed to be rough. Going wild during intercourse allows both partners to release stress that has been building for a while, but only if it ends with the big “O”. Rough sex without a climax can only lead to greater frustration, and it won’t be pretty.
A balanced blend of rough love-making is what’s needed for the perfect sexual experience. If you and your partner are having rough sex every night, and you are among the 16 percent of women who have never had an orgasm, tone it down. If you have to ask your partner “Is it in yet?” maybe you two should speed things up.
Testosterone levels in men are obviously high, and that is the reason they crave sex more than women (in most cases). The chances of finding a man who can guess exactly what you want during intercourse is slim to none, so let them know ladies! There is no reason why those percentages should be so high! Men don’t have a reputation for being the best listeners, but when it comes to sex you will have their full attention. If you tell your partner exactly how you want it done (or don’t), they will listen. They’ll take sex any way it comes, and you will be getting it the way you like.
Sex is a very important and necessary part of life - so why not enjoy it? With more sex, the world would be a better place; endorphins would be set free from the prisons of the prude, and people could have natural and legal highs. Rough, gentle, upside-down, backwards: as long as you and your partner are both safe and willing, it doesn’t matter how you do it. Sex is one of the only ways to relieve stress free and legally, so go crazy! Scratch, bite, kiss, lick, touch, have fun! You only live once, so you better live life to its climax.
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